How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows
March 2nd, 2012, by Christine Beswick
It goes without saying that the most important part of any wedding ceremony, outside of your cultural traditions, are the wedding vows. When it comes to your vows, there are a number of ways to do it. One thing that many couples today are doing is writing their own wedding vows. And why not? How much more personal can you get than writing your own vows, and telling your love exactly how much you love them, and what you will promise to them from this day forward? But if you feel that you aren’t the best writer on the block, the very thought can strike you with more fear than the walk down the aisle itself. There are many places online to find wedding vows examples that can help you, but today we will give you a few tips to get you started.
If you choose to write your own vows to each other, you are making yet another unique and personalized commitment to the one that you love. This is the most important thing to remember in this process. Do not think about what anybody else that will be there will think, because the only thing that matters is how you feel, and what you promise to them. That being said, you need to make your vows as personal as possible, because they are words that will be remembered and cherished for the rest of your lives together.
You may want to start with elements that the two of you shared specifically together. Starting with sentences such as, “I will never forget our first date and the moment you looked into my eyes across the dinner table. I knew then that I wanted to be looking into those beautiful eyes for the rest of my life.” In all likelihood, the two of you have already had a relationship that has experienced its share of ups and downs. You don’t need to air your laundry to the entire world during your vows, and you shouldn’t either, but there are ways to incorporate that into your vows that will show her or him exactly how much they mean to you. Statements such as, “The night that I spent in the hospital saying goodbye to my grandmother was one of the most difficult nights of my life. I needed someone there that was strong, so I could have someone to lean on, and that was you.” Things such as this give true meaning to the commitment of marriage, and it is these experiences that made you decide why you wanted to marry this person, because they have already been with you through thick and thin. Remembering these moments in your wedding vows will be a certain way to ensure there is not a dry eye in the house, and to ensure that he or she will know exactly why you cherish them so much.
When it comes to your vows, it can be a painful process because it is so incredibly emotional. Many people writing their own vows are stressed about the process because others will be watching them during the most intimate moments of their lives. and you are talking just to them. That will be the best way to make your vows your own, and your wedding day a day that nobody will ever forget. For more ideas on wedding vows, visit our wedding forums and Facebook applications!